When was the last time you felt lonely? According to
Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary loneliness defines as ‘being one without
companion or one not frequented by human beings.’ Although the latter may seem
a little defiant, one can measure the “state of loneliness” by pondering upon a
few things. Can you count how many true friends you have? Can you truly say how
many people would pull through for you in time of need? When in trouble, are
you surrounded by people who love and seek to help you or are you looking at
the corners of your walls wondering which way to go?
To be lonely does not necessarily mean that
one is unfriendly or unkind. It does not necessarily mean that one is unpopular
nor has anything to offer to people. Au contraire, a lonely person can possess
the same quality of living a fruitful and harmonious life as one who is the
friendliest; when he or she accepts the state of mind for which he or she is -
a born loner. It is when we fight against that concept and adopt a robotic
facilitator to represent our “person” that it becomes a tug of war.
Consequently, when this “person” does not fulfill the demand of what we desire
it to be, we feel rejected, “lonely”, and desperate.
However, many of us refuse to
resign in the “lonely” world. We desire to be “frequented by human beings” as
stated in the dictionary. Loneliness is not such a bad thing if we:
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who we are – accepting our state of
being will bring contentment
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who we are not – We should try to remain
true to ourselves and decline what others portray us to be.
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who we are – If you are not an
initiator, don’t pretend to be. If you are not a front row person, it is okay
to sit in the back.
Loneliness provides many
opportunities for one to seek gratitude and find strength in areas, which are
lacking. In a time of loneliness, it may be that God is seeking our attention
straying others from us only to reconnect him with us. So, when we find
ourselves in that state of mind, we should not become distraught but we should
try to pay closer attention and prepare for the change that may come. After
all, we may find ourselves that we are not one “without companion.”
©
November 20, 2012 by N. Michel/Bellflower’s Moment
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